I was talking with my friend awhile ago about how, in this new modern world where people move away from home more, we are constantly making new friends and then eventually leaving them behind. It’s nearly impossible to keep in contact with everyone you meet. For people like Myranda and I, this is difficult because when we spend our time investing in people, it’s hard to let them go.
For me, long distance friendships are more difficult because I only have a few close friends. I like those friends to be updated on my life and I want to know about theirs. Sometimes if I am noticing we aren’t talking a lot, my feelings get hurt. I’ve gotten better at not feeling this way throughout the years because I have realized that people, including myself, get busy. This has nothing to do with how much we care about each other. As long as my friends reach out to me sometimes, I know they’re my real friends.
But what about the people we meet who we don’t get to keep in touch with? I have several friends that I know I will never see again. Thanks to Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, I’ll still get to see what they’re up to and wish them a happy birthday. But I won’t get to have late night drinks with them and just chat about whatever life has thrown at us that day, and that’s what gets me down. I get sad every time someone moves away or when I have to leave my friends behind.
As I’ve thought more about this, I am realizing how lucky I am to be sad to leave people behind. I have been fortunate enough to form meaningful relationships with so many different people who have made my life so much better. I really do believe that when you meet and get to know people, your eyes are opened a little bit wider. Because of the different people I have gotten to know over the years, I have become more tolerant of lifestyles different from my own, open to views that do not directly align with mine, and I’ve been humbled enough to realize how lucky I am to have the life I do. I’ve also had a lot more fun.
So although it is a sad part of life to have to move on and say goodbye to the people you have come to love, it’s truly a blessing. I am so thankful for all of the people that have ever made me sad to move on to a new place. After all, it’s the people you’re with and the relationships you have that make life meaningful.